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Sex After Kids….Just Do It! – Episode 9

January 22, 2014 — Interview with Kimberly Ford

with Louise Kuo Habakus and Alison MacNeil

HumpjacketWe’re getting down and dirty with author Kimberly Ford on her book Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids. Yup, we’re going for it because the statistics on sex are terrible.

Forty million Americans are living in a sexless marriage!

Whoa.

What’s getting in the way of the good stuff?

Is it true that you’d rather give up sex than your iPhone?

Time to get back up on that horse? (so to speak)

Already figured it out and reaping the benefits?

Call in and share it all with us… well, maybe not everything, LOL.

We’re going to have a great conversation, filled with puns, honest disclosure, and hilarious, bawdy, angst-filled storytelling.

When we floated the topic with friends and unnamed spouses, we heard:

photo2Families are less functional when parents stop having sex with each other.

If you’re not having sex with your spouse, don’t assume no one is having sex.

Even if it’s absolutely, unequivocally the very last thing in the world you feel like doing, do it anyway. I’m always glad I did.

Give a little, get a little.

Listen in as we interview Kimberly, call in with an alias (we won’t bust you!), and then share the podcast with your favorite adult in the house.

You’re welcome.

Giddyap! Three weeks until Valentine’s Day.

kimberlyfordps. Our guest, Kimberly Ford Chisholm, PhD, is the author of the book Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids. She has written for The Threepenny Review and Literary Mama, among other publications. Kimberly has a PhD from the University of California, Berkeley in Spanish and French Literature. She and her husband, along with their three young children, live near San Francisco. Her book is a public service to parents and this is one of her favorite topics — she’d love to hear from you!

Edison-PCE-6-14-14-3-crop-PS2Louise Kuo Habakus is Executive Director of Fearless Parent, lead host and producer of Fearless Parent Radio, and mom of two. She is a published author, runs the non-profit Center for Personal Rights, lectures widely, and has appeared in numerous media outlets, including ABC World News Tonight, Fox & Friends, and The New York Times. Louise was a Bain consultant and a C-level executive in the financial services industry. She holds two degrees from Stanford University. She is an advisory board member of GreenMedInfo.

alison2Alison MacNeil, MSW, LICSW is a social worker and psychotherapist with more than 15 years of clinical experience. She holds degrees from Trinity College and the Smith College School for Social Work. Her professional background includes positions with a community mental health center in southeastern Massachusetts, Family Services of Greater Boston, and Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center’s Healthcare Associates. Alison is a published author and a co-founder of the Thinking Moms’ Revolution.

 

33 Comments

  • Dawn Loughborough

    Fearless!

  • Cassandra Deehring Alls

    Yeah!!!!

  • Diana Sue

    Back on that horse? Oh, I’m leaving it alone but I’m tempted… 🙂

  • Cassandra Deehring Alls

    Louise Kuo Habakus… Check out Kim Anami’s work on this topic.

  • Elaine Wilhelm

    If your libido has taken a hike, what’s a girl to do?

  • Allison Chapman

    Vitamin D3 is really helpful for libido! Can totally tell the difference on and off. Need to take nights away without kids and no talking about the kids. A concert, music and dancing is really helpful. We had to do a lot to reinvent the wheel.

    Legs is the air Alison Macneil! Lol!

    • Alison MacNeil

      That’s right Allison Chapman !!!Legs In the Air! You guys all have to call in!!! You can make up a name if you want. This book is so dynamite. She totally goes there. There is some stuff in this book that will have you howling with laughter, I mean howling!

  • Angela McDonough

    Sometimes loosing that lovin feeling isn’t a choice sometimes its a health issue for one and the other just has to cope with it

  • Kathy Seravalli

    Maca powder (or capsules), have a long history of boosting hormone production and elevating libido 🙂 also great for your ski n:)

  • Leslie Levinson

    i am very open about sex , most are not b/c of the nature of it!

  • Louise Kuo Habakus

    Some experts say 10 mns every day (or more if you like)… just like flossing and brushing your teeth.

  • Louise Kuo Habakus

    Hey, Claudine Liss… you have to call in and let it all hang out with us. The Secret Sex Lives of Parents!!

    • Claudine Liss

      Why does anytime sex is discussed – I am dragged in???? lol That’s what I get for being “let it hang out honest” lol !!!!

  • Jude Guidice Tovatt

    Just how do sex and autism co-exist?

  • Linda Kuo

    OMG…Louise…is this you? LMAO! I love it. I love you and can’t wait to hear next week’s podcast. XO

  • MommyAmandaKaye

    Oh I could never survive in a sexless marriage. I’d go absolutely insane. Lol. I have 2 kids, 1 with autism, and a third on the way so we def keep busy. Lol. And these pregnancy hormones have me acting like a dang teenager again :). We gotta keep the sex alive, it keeps our relationship to that true level of closeness as if it was the first time. I love you hubby for keeping it alive and good.

  • Allison

    Great show ladies! Louise gave a good point to talk to your daughters before they get married. I should have listened to my Grandma earlier (who was right most of the time and we’ve learned to put our marriage first now too). She told me that my Grandfather ravaged her body every night! Lol They had the best marriage, raised 5 kids, had 3 miscarriage, lost a baby at 2 weeks old, and their youngest daughter had many medical issues early on. They still made time every night.

  • Zoey O'Toole

    Terrific show, you guys! Definitely have to check out Kimberly’s book.

  • John Kovacs

    I think about the lack of intimacy,sex and physical touch between my wife and I almost everyday. I feel guilty that I’m not doing more to initiate love making. I’m very attracted to her. We have two children and she looks amazing. It’s never been about our attraction to each other. We have two young children ages six and 20 months and both of us have very demanding jobs so it’s an issue of time. When I get that opportunity to be with her “alone”, I feel invigorated and alive and feel like that sexual being once again. I said to her we need to be deliberate and schedule sex into our week. It is so hard to find that time where we have energy and feel sexy together. Very frustrating…. at this rate I’ll be sixty before we finally have time for each other….

  • alison MacNeil

    John, what a thoughtful and honest comment. I think you are in really good company, so many of us are trying to figure this out. The good news is that the desire is there. My hunch is that just sharing those words with her will be a very intimate moment.

  • Trudy Snyder

    Seriously? A sex show? What’s sex anyways? I have no idea of this concept you’ve mentioned. There’s sex?

  • Michael Schaefer

    I am posting on our medical office page….

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