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Feminism and the Election: The Gift of Acceleration

by Kelly Brogan, MD and Louise Kuo Habakus

Cars were at a 12 minute standstill and the traffic light repeatedly cycled green to red. In the streets, throngs of sign-toting New Yorkers were giving voice to their passion. There were tears and profanity. The waves of protesters streamed endlessly. “FUCK TRUMP” was the choice mantra of this movement. The perplexed Nepalese driver turned and said in his broken English, “Why is dese womens mad? I know what woman is. Hillary has not even little kindly heart. She is no woman.”

The candidate archetypes

If we can zoom out and dispassionately examine the leading characters in this near-Shakespearean drama, we observe that there is a unique alchemy at play here. For the first time in US history, we have the Democratic Party — perceived as a heart-centered ideology — aligned with a female candidate, and the Republican Party — perceived as cold, self-interested pragmatists — aligned with not just a male candidate, but a caricature of rapacious patriarchy.

With the help of mainstream media’s carefully curated and theatrical representation of reductionist platitudes, an expected voting majority was led down the yellow brick road to meet Oz; Oz, in this case, being the redemptive victory of the first ever female president over this embarrassment of a Republican candidate.

As the media showcased Trump’s unscripted and uncensored boorish behavior, we watched women rally. They donned pantsuits. They exhorted each other towards unity in indignation (“Wake TF up! He’s disgusting. He hates disabled people! He’ll be the end of us all.”). They assembled in places like Wellesley College, desperately eager to bear witness to the piercing of the glass ceiling and usher in a new era. We watched as leading female celebrities campaigned to seize this moment in history.

Women all over this country needed Hillary to be the redemptor. To heal us. To right the wrongs and to confer a power we have felt stripped from us.

It’s only natural that women would look to a woman to help lead us home.

What happens when in our desperation for the solution to be simplified, we allow ourselves to be duped… when we can’t bear to scratch beneath the surface to recognize our projections and how we participate in our own co-option?

The shackles of old feminism

Co-option? What? How?

Yes. It’s time to take a good hard look at a type of feminism that, practiced today, only serves to keep us indentured and arrested in our development as women.

Classical feminism is men versus women. It’s burning bras. It’s fighting for what’s ours. It’s throwing our lipstick away, gunning for every shred of external validation offered to men — from clothing to salary to parenting roles to frontline combat units. It’s “no thanks, I got the door for myself.” It’s even cultivating aggression and hate.

It may feel empowering. But when we engage feminism primarily from the masculine principle, it contributes further to our silent and chronic oppression.

Look at where playing the game has gotten us. One in four of us is medicated beyond any contact with our own souls, let alone our emotions or our psyches. We are neutered of our hormones, electively and passively, without true informed consent. We are placed in stirrups in our moment of awakening, strapped and commandeered by men (and women) who seek to control and dominate through fear. We shear off our breasts and slice out our ovaries and uteri (and vaccinate our babies) to be safe and smart according to industry-defined standards.

We have done this under the illusion of our sovereignty as we float more and more distantly away from creative power, from cosmic feminine energy, from the great divine mother of the Adi Shakti.

The masculine principle in extremis

We know this old style of feminism because we’ve lived it.

So many of us women have been feminists in the masculine principle for years. Decades, actually. We have said “Anything you can do, I can do (better)…” We have looked for places to exercise force, totalitarian viewpoints, aggression, and righteousness through the lens of entitlements. We have seized on birth control as a feminist’s right; the elective c-section as the empowered and civilized choice; and the cervical cancer, human papillomavirus Gardasil vaccine as a preventive boon for women everywhere.

This kind of feminism is evidence of women divested of our own divinity, giving our power away to the perceived opposition. It is Stockholm syndrome at its worst.

We must get this.

When a woman who puts aside her fierce grace, her deep nurturance, her unparalleled powers of intuition, and her unique potential to create a collective, she becomes trapped in her masculine principle. There are many of us. But it is time to evolve. Let us explain…

The wolf in sheep’s clothing

Hillary Clinton represents our tendency to be appeased with exactly what keeps us imprisoned. She is not a feminist’s candidate though she may appear, in form, to be.

She is, in fact, a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

What did that taxi driver mean by her absence of heart? Hillary is one, perhaps extreme, example of the illusion of feminine progress, with all of her masculine principle foregrounded and her shadow elements festering beneath the surface.

There are many examples of this. Watch this video interview of one of the true activists on this planet lays that case bare. And also consider where you get your information.

If you’re new to activism, know that the source of and behind the information is the most powerful predictor of its potential to represent the truest story. Or, as Voltaire said, “To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize.”

You won’t hear this true story from mainstream media, take it from us! When we rely on the mainstream media for our news, we fail to see the strings pulling on the marionettes as we take in the show. We may absorb the platitudes of party politics and the triumphalism of Hillary’s gender-busting candidacy. But we fail to see the Story of Separation, the subterranean hate, and the old model of feminism that she also represents. Sometimes, it’s hard to even entertain the possibility that what we want to believe and what is true may actually be in tense conflict. 

To elect her because she has a vagina is a more aggressive act of sexism than it appears. It is a vote for stasis in this story, for the status quo. It is a vote for the world-destroying machine to which she is beholden. It’s why we women feel placated to have put a vaginal canal in the oval office. It’s the excitement and celebration of illusory gains while we drift farther away from our true prospects of healing.

The wolf in wolf’s clothing

On the other hand, Trump is, indeed, a wolf in wolf’s clothing.

He is the crass womanizer, the ostentatious vulgarian, and the attention-seeking chauvinist. He is boastful, blunt, and rude… the embodiment of the patriarchal masculine exposed.

But the real gift in this moment in time is that we can look at what the unbalanced masculine is in a man and in a woman. And we can use this insight to reframe our expectations for what an empowered woman and national leader can and will be.

Maybe the system needs to fall apart so we can, together, begin to grow the tendrils of a new, better system to replace it.

In order to respond to this call to action, we need transparency. We can work with the wolf, particularly, if he is lone, without a pack of already deeply established industry and dynasty-level corporate and financial ties to Big Pharma, Big Chem, Big Ag, and Big Business. Think about how many liberties we have sacrificed in the name of “safety” — only to learn that the real danger lurks inside. That the fox is indeed guarding the henhouse. In many ways, the necessary change — environmental, consciousness, healing-based change — will come from the people, not from the president.

Here’s why we, and sacred activists like Bayo Akomolafe and Charles Eisenstein are saying that they felt this coming and that perhaps this needed to happen.

We all need to wake up. Sometimes Kali-esque destruction is a part of this process, and can catalyze the deepest forms of healing and regeneration. We need to activate the divine feminine to heal this planet.

Trump is something we can work with, push against, define ourselves through if we use the rupture of his election to ignite and channel latent energy. Sometimes the darkness reveals the path toward the light and invites more and more of us to walk it than would otherwise.

The hurt is a buried treasure

The process that has been kicked off is one of a collective mourning. At the risk of generalization, those who are grieving today, wailing, and gnashing their teeth, are those whose hearts we need most enlivened to usher in the New Story. The grace in this is that people are now feeling.

As activists on behalf of women, families, and health freedom, we recognize this feeling because we have been peeking beneath the veil of the Mainstream Media narrative for collective decades.

We have felt what millions are feeling today for a quite a long time.

It is, potentially, the first stage of true awakening to service to feel this deep ache inside. These emotions have been IN THERE all along, simmering and percolating and roiling. In our sisters, mothers, and aunts. In our girlfriends, wives, and daughters. The rage, the grief, the indignation, the rip roaring pissed off, seriously God dammit, I’m not taking it anymore, ENOUGH is ENOUGH line in the sand. But we’ve been sublimating these feelings for decades. We can count on two hands how many truly activated women we’ve walked this path with over the past several years.

After all, there’s been plenty of fuel to our fire. There are a lot of Establishment-engineered transgressions that could’ve woken all of us up. But many have been unaware or otherwise not set off by the knowledge that there is more to the story than meets the eye and a whole lot to be pissed about. We find ourselves in a place of seriously grave instability on this planet. It’s an instability that cuts to the core of all of our ecosystems from environmental to human to microbial. To begin with, we have:

So much is so wrong. We feel the pain of this inside and now maybe you do too, more consciously.

The anxiety, depression, and fear are palpable. We know that we are disconnected from something vital. Men and women alike have lost contact with the proverbial mother as we are divorced from our greater sense of recognition, safety, belonging, and love. We know this wound. It is a feminine wound. A community wound. A family wound. 

But we also know, deep down that there is, indeed, a more beautiful world that we know is possible. And we look upon the tears and screams emerging today, in the wake of this election, with a feeling of expansive possibility for the women of the world.

The induced awakening of women nationwide will be a gift of acceleration to us as a planet. Trump is, perhaps, exactly what we need to wake women up to ourselves rather than to lead us to the celebration of our own continued captivity in a narrative that has no room for our divine feminine power.

Moving into a new feminism

It is time to move into the new feminism. Our feminism. The feminism that the world demands to heal today. It is not a warring posture, vaginas versus cocks. It’s not women who seek to mimic the dress, comportment, and energy of stereotypical men. It’s not the level playing field. It’s not “our turn.”

This new feminism takes a good hard look at our several thousand year history of divorce from community, matriarchy, and deep wisdom. It sees that our collective hurt must be owned and worked with and fully integrated for true healing. It understands that the most powerful force on this planet is a woman’s divine compass — a compass that only knows the feeling of the collective as one. It knows that we can shift out of our righteousness and into a place of core stability because we already have everything we need if we choose to trust it, feel it, and own it.

We women are working with the deepest powers of manifestation and creation known to this world. But we have given it away.

It’s time for a reclamation.

The reclamation is not a grabbing. It’s simply a radiating. It’s an energetic commitment to healing the self in service of healing the planet. Perhaps, as Regena Thomashauer says in her new book, we need to let our pussies (not our minds) lead the way out of victimhood and into radiance. Yes, this much maligned, abused, and despised part of us that we need only to reunite with as our most trusted connection to a power we have given away.

We must let the rage and pain move through us, come together in ritual, and then work creatively with the energy that only knows to see the other as self. To see each human as a cell in the greater organism. Uniquely, instructively essential.

Hillary has shown us what the old feminism looks like, mired in orthodox power structures, dogma, and non-integration. The new feminism is emboldened by possibilities herein. It is always curious and compelling, the gifts that pain and suffering will bring if we let them flow to the surface, swirl around, and transform us in the crucible of a heart-centered consciousness. If we do this, together… if we let the seeds planted by this election grow, they will yield the leaders, healers, and true earth-bound revolutionaries who will ready us for the New Story in ways that are not yet made apparent by the current binary system of options.

Perhaps the wolf in wolf’s clothing will inadvertently and even unintentionally heal the entire landscape.

kelly-3-14-16-cropKelly Brogan, MD is Medical Director of Fearless Parent™, a New York Times bestselling author, and mom of two. She is board certified in Psychiatry, Psychosomatic Medicine, and Integrative and Holistic Medicine. Holistic living, environmental medicine, and nutrition are the bedrock of her functional medicine practice. She serves as medical advisor to GreenMedInfo, Pathways to Family Wellness, and Fisher Wallace. Kelly holds degrees from MIT and Cornell Medical School.

habakusbio-budapestLouise Kuo Habakus is the founding director of Fearless Parent™, lead host and producer of Fearless Parent Radio™, and mom of two. She is an Amazon bestselling author and runs the non-profits Center for Personal Rights and Health Freedom Action. Louise was a Bain consultant and a C-level executive in the financial services industry. She holds two degrees from Stanford University. She is an advisory board member of GreenMedInfo, S*HE Living TV, and The Documenting Hope Project.



  • Becca

    Wow! What a great article! You are such eloquent and insightful writers!

  • SpeakLove

    Dr. Brogan hits it out of the ball field again. Her words are spot on!
    Let the new feminism emerge!

  • Victoria Baker via Facebook

    Wow! Love this insight!!! Agreed a shaking is needed to wake up. New, beautiful realities can be created with Spirit and our minds too. We are called to care and walk with each other in the uncertainty, and to remember with love each is on their individual path of enlightenment and truth seeking. Peace and thank you.

  • Tahra Collins via Facebook

    This is brilliant. Your collective voice is so clear and very compelling. I love the wolf video at the end. Incredible.

  • Zach Campo via Facebook

    Wonderfully written! Appreciate both of your insights very much. Completely agree that this is fast tracking the inevitable healing process that our race needs to go through.

  • Amanda Gale-Bando, Ph.D.

    Radical, bold, powerful.

  • kunle oyebanji

    Very eloquent and insightful piece of writing…

  • Marysia

    Bravo! Thank you for your eloquence. Its go-time ladies!

  • John Samson via Facebook

    Outstanding article

  • Sarah Kamrath via Facebook

    BRILLIANT! Deeply grateful to you for so eloquently sharing this viewpoint … beautifully said!

  • Eden Fromberg via Facebook

    Thank you

  • Lori Saporito via Facebook

    this is absolutely brilliant. The gift of Donald Trump is that every single day, every single woman in this country and around the world will be reminded of any experience of sexual harassment or abuse that she has suffered in her past and will remain motivated by her new found feelings.

  • Amy

    If it were a woman like Margaret Thatcher, I would be all for her, but if she had got in, it would be a disgrace to women. Feminism has cut off their nose to spite their face in my mind. I believe in equality, but women don’t realize there is power in being gentle, kind, nurturing, even in ‘just’ raising their own children.

  • lisa

    Some of this article is beautiful but some of it makes absolutely no sense.

    First the cab driver said Hillary did not have the heart of a woman because in many societies women are supposed to be behind men. They are supposed to be soft and meak, not strong. Maybe Hillary went too far to the testisterone side, but dealing with men who feel women are not worthy to have certain possitions, this is sometimes the price that is paid for those first through the door. Once we get through the door and show them we are just as capable then things will balance out. Right now we are still dealing with a mentality that women are only vaginas…and many women play into that male ideal/desire/insult.

    Yes, many women voted for Hilary because she is a woman. Just as people voted for a party because they are that party. This is wrong. Quit aligning to an ideal and vote based on the facts presented. I did not vote for Hilary because she is a woman. I did not vote dem or against trump because he is a republican. I voted because trump is a very frightening person.

    It is true in a way that trumps imergance is positive in that he is our mirror. Like him, we are bigoted, mysogenist, egomaniacs, ignorant, fearful… but to get my white friends to acknowledge that has been impossible. Trump or Hillary or middle of the road, rich or poor, educated or not they do not want to accept this about themselves. When the black killings by police were going on I spoke out against racism. The responses varied from “there is no racism” “they wont let the past go” to “but mexicans…” to “they are terrorists” to even a dr saying it is blacks fault because how they present themselves. If they went to school and got a job like he did…. Sexism: it is still seen by many men and women as a boys will be boys. Until we look the ugly in the face and accept its reality, nothing will change. I have seen feminism loose footings because women give into media ideals of show that t&a. Even the let’s get together and love one another has killed the work done by women before us. There are times to take the yoga stance, chill, ohm and love one another and there are times where we need to stand up and fight. Sorry, but my ideal of a woman with heart is not one who is the same as your cab drivers. I am married to someone from another country. I know how they think.

    • Louise Kuo Habakus

      Thank you for writing, Lisa. We are glad that you see beauty in this article.

      The mainstream media continues to promote division and train us to lock into differences and reduce them to angry labels — black and white, right and left, rapist and victim, feminist and misogynist.

      We can see and take for ourselves an essential truth. No, we do not know the taxi driver (although is it not a kind of racism to assume that we do?). But there was wisdom in his words. It is a point of departure for a conversation about women in society. Do we want to be right or do we want to move forward, understanding that it is a journey and not a destination? As we come to inhabit the fierce grace that is our power and our inheritance, it will be self-evident that there is no battle.

      There is a gift in this moment in time. Millions of women did not “fuck up” and vote against women. The old feminism does not serve us. We are moving into the new feminism. The feminism our world demands to heal today.

      • Tammy

        I’m always a bit leery of the kind of “out with the old, in with the new” stance. It is just as revolutionary in the spirit of the older models we seek to transform. There is a lot to critique in American, late twentieth-century feminism—and by the way, it is not a monolithic “thing”. Movements get boiled down into easy-to-parse, digestible pieces. So ERA became a rallying cry for many years. Also, there are always internal disagreements that can result in people being labelled “not feminist enough” by some stringent set of standards set by a powerful clique. This happens in any and every movement, right or left. But the very fact that women can even speak their minds at all in public forums all over the US is very much due to what the older generations of feminists worked very steadily towards. We have remember, too, that none the movements in the last quarter of the 20th c. stood in isolation—they were borrowing strategies and tactics and consciousness from each other. I guess my point, as someone who actually grew up in the heart of the movement as a young child is there was always a range of attitudes and stances in the movement. It got driven into identity politics in part because that’s what happens to all movements—look at the right now. They engage in “identity politics”, too, very much so. I think strategies and tactics for change are always in a state of transformation. And, yes, it’s more than wearing a pantsuit, or bring a mom, or going to a political rally, or giving to your local community organizations, or attending religious functions, or reading the “correct books”, or living the “right” kind of healthy life. It’s all of those things and more. Good article, I appreciate the perspective.

        • Tammy

          I forgot to say further up: I think a commitment to a new form of matriarchy is feared more than anything else. It takes courage to see the world differently—one that is peaceful and verdant, where we are much more in tune with the notion that you don’t take anything “out” of the world without replacing it. That you don’t over-consume, leaving more junk and stuff behind you. I do believe these are values we need to start emphasizing, regardless of what label or philosophies we follow.

    • Linda

      Your comment is correct, women need to start loving their inner bitch and realize we are dualistic in nature and have to balance ourselves moving forward!

  • Jennifer Lee via Facebook

    Holy smokes. I f’n LOVE you guys. Nailed. It.
    Thank you.
    Nailed. It.

  • Marguerite Vizza Portagallo via Facebook

    I encourage my women friends to read this article no matter who you voted for. One of the authors I know personally. She is a vaccine choice advocate and author of the book “Vaccine Epidemic” and lives in my town.

  • Cyndi O'Meara via Facebook

    In this brilliantly orchestrated and written piece Kelly and Louise you have articulated something I’ve been thinking but could not articulate myself. I’ve shared it with my community (Changing Habits) and my friends and family. The election hysteria will pass but this article should become perpetual. The two videos you place within the article I’ve watched before and I’m aware of the one sided nature of media. In Australia it’s almost completely Murdoch dominated, I don’t read or watch mainstream media anymore. As for the second video yes yes yes. Our wolf in wolf’s clothing may just be the catalyst for amazing change. Thank you thank you thank you.

  • Maria R.

    An amazing piece written by two women whose work I greatly admire. This is one I will share over and over because it so beautifully articulates the heart of the matter. Those living on the surface who cannot see beyond what seems obvious to them, who know of no pain outside of their own, and who appear devoid of humanity because they hold onto so much hatred do make me sad but I am trying to find peace and use my anger in a productive way, to focus on what truly matters. Thank you both for writing this. It’s perfect.

    Louise: I am still available to help out on 1/24 if you can use me. Looking forward to the event.

  • Aimee Villella McBride via Facebook

    I shared this on my wall last night, such a powerful piece. I hope those upset by the election outcome can take a moment to pull away from media-created hate cycle to read it, dig deep and reflect. There is a lot to absorb and it was a fantastic piece that you & Kelly wrote. Thank you!! ?

  • Sha Java via Facebook

    This was an excellent read, thank you for sharing.

  • Andrew MacDonald

    The sacred masculine and the sacred feminine awaken each other and support each other. Thanks for the clear light you shine on our mutual landscape.

  • Stephanie Dawn via Facebook

    Great work

  • Tanya Wills via Facebook

    “Maybe the system needs to fall apart so we can, together, begin to grow the tendrils of a new, better system to replace it.”

  • Kara Este

    I think it’s unfortunate that you see this election as a gift. You are clearly out of touch with those who are considered to be minorities in this country (people of color as well as LGBTQ). An older black educator has recently said that when she was born she was a second class citizen and when she woke up the day after the election she had become a third class citizen. This election is not some blissful opportunity for us to grow; it is a sad statement on the racist and sexist attitudes of one quarter of our country (yes, only 25% of the population voted him into office) and it will bring much more grief than growth. Perhaps there is a better way for you to find a blissful way to wake into the new feminism that you crave and not on the backs of those people who are already suffering from the racist and sexist backlash that has begun.

    • Louise Kuo Habakus

      Hi, Kara. I am a minority and I have lived prejudice in different forms. My Taiwanese parents came to this country soon after WW2 and learned what it meant to look Japanese. I was bullied mercilessly as the only slant-eyed kid in my class until I moved to Japan (ironically) in 8th grade. I was consistently underestimated and patronized for being Asian, female, and petite in the corporate world. I encountered outright hatred from the entrenched and largely male old guard as I climbed the ranks of two large financial companies. As the only woman on otherwise all-male leadership teams, I endured graphic stories about sexual exploits and women’s anatomy. I’ve been treated badly and privately (and sometimes, to my dismay, publicly) shed bitter tears of resentment and anger.

      Dismiss me as privileged if you will, and I won’t completely disagree with you, but still, I know there are important lessons in my experience. Racism, sexism, and prejudice soften and depart because survivors lift their heads and carry on, against the odds and through hardship. And because courageous bystanders come forward to defend them, only a few at first but more and more. Ask Nelson Mandela. Mahatma Gandhi. Malala Yousafzai. There are so many whose names we do not know. Inherent divinity, sovereignty, true power are not conferred by an outside entity. They are our inheritance if we will seize them.

      So, to all these women who cry and shriek and threaten to leave, I ask of you: Is it so easy to give up on the dream? Is it so easy to give up on yourselves, each other, and all people who want decency, courtesy, and a fair shake? Something very important happened during this election that is very good for women, minorities, and LGBTQ. There was a rejection of the elites. Please read more. We are inspired by activists like these who are helping to explain and lead us to a new paradigm, a truly beautiful world that we know is possible:

      * The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story by Charles Eisenstein
      * On Trump: An Open-Letter to the Broken-Hearted by Bayo Akomolafe
      * The Revolutionary Moment by Paul Kingsnorth
      * The Rejection of Wall Street’s Globalization Project: Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead! by Diana Johnstone

      You already make my case when you assert that only 25% of the population voted him into office. Many people are pissed, for sure. The seeming solidarity feels good but it’s not clear they’re all angry about the same thing because there’s an awful lot to be disenchanted about. Lord knows that Trump isn’t the half of it. Grieving can be helpful but lashing out with misplaced anger at allies isn’t going to get us to where we are going. There’s a New Story that deeply moves us and we like it a lot better than yours.

      • Wafa Faith Hallam

        I command you for your article though with some reservation. I also applaud you for being strong and capable women who have achieved much in the wake of the work done by our feminist sisters and brothers for a hundred years.
        I do not however appreciate the tearing down of other women as “wolves in sheep clothing.” Hillary is far from perfect but her remarkable journey and work as a politician and advocate for women and children deserve credit and praise, not evil assumptions and insult. Do you know her or are you just guided by rumors and theories?
        You add to the demonizing of a human being who put herself out there time and again and indeed advanced the position of women in our country to a level never achieved before. She may not have broken the “highest ceiling” but her courage is something to behold. Her work as secretary of state is only a reflection of the position occupied by many before her who were recognized as great statesmen. She did her job. The morality of it is to be discussed within the framework of American Foreign Policy for the last century not in isolation and in such a discriminatory way.
        The conspiracy theories behind WikiLeaks assertions and interpretation of her emails are not a valid excuse and I found it supremely unsavory that you posted that tape. It undermined the argument of love you tried to make. It is to be noted that Assange may not be an angel himself as he is allegedly a rapist. But I will not judge him since these are all allegations.
        Love means kindness, non-judgment, and forgiveness.

  • Michelle Ford via Facebook

    So brilliantly written…a masterpiece. You have struck at the core of true feminine energy…let’s seize the day and unite in healing love energy. Thank you !

  • La La LaMuse via Facebook

    Yes, yes, yes.

  • Marnie McKnight Favell via Facebook

    I am so excited to be part of this conscious movement. I have been in meditation the past several days and I am clarifying my role as healer and facilitator in the acceleration and activation of Divine feminine consciousness! Let’s do it!!!

  • Jeanette Forlano Slaw via Facebook

    Be sure to read and share this thought provoking article about “the wolf in sheep’s clothing” and “the wolf in wolf’s clothing.” Watch the embedded brief video of Julian Assange and learn about the Wikileaks revelations regarding the Clinton emails. I’ll post the link to the full Assange interview below. Also watch the wolf video. It is BEAUTIFUL and you will be glad that you did! Thank you Louise and Kelly Brogan! God bless you both . . . <3

  • DR

    A friend forwarded your article and said MUST READ. So I read it immediately.

    It reminded me of my own questioning of feminism. My body is 61, so feminism occured when I was in my teens, at a time when my own sense of myself as a female was forming. And because of feminism, I became more masculine, wanting to work instead of raising a family, which I did.

    At age 35 I suddenly started having menstrual problems. My period started one day and didn’t end for six months. My body bled so heavily that when I would stand up from sitting, blood would run down my leg. Hormone problems I was told. Medicine couldn’t help me, alternative treatments did nothing.

    After some years I had the idea that it was a female problem and I should look at myself as a woman. And I saw a big disconnect between my female body and myself BEING a woman. I had no idea what that meant. I was born into a wolrd with a skewed view of women which was followed by feminism—another skewed view.

    I went back in history and studied women and their roles and responsibilities in other times, and studied the feminine principle in life itself and decided to be a woman on my own terms instead of society’s idea.

    AND MY MENSTURAL IRREGULARITIES STOPPED and my body resumed a normal menstrual cycle.

    From this experience I want to say two things.

    1. The solution to women not being valued is to VALUE WOMEN AS WOMEN, not for women to become men because we live(d) in a society where men are valued. We still don’t value women, we don’t even know what a woman is any more. And that’s what needs to be restored. We really need to re-establsh and understanding of the feminine and an appreciation of it.

    2. While there are many things we can do physically to improve physical conditions, the body is affected more than is generally known by thoughts and feelings. Our bodies are made by what we think and illness has an aspect of showing us physically inner illnesses than need to be corrected. As a culture, we don’t recognize this enough.

    I’ve since come to know that I actually am a spiritual being, infinite, eternal, and without gender. I’ve chosen to be here in a woman’s body and am loving the experience of being a woman.

    When I decided to be a woman, I took responsibility for the traditional woman’s role in my home. I still worked but I also starting making a home for my husband and I, a function that had been missing at our house. I started identifying and developing and expressing my feminine aspects. I asked him to be more masculine, and he did. And this worked a lot better for us. Nature is not everything the same, it’s a dance of masculine and feminine principles. Both are needed for life.

    I’m happy that enough Americans could see the difference between the candidates and choose the one with the best qualities and abilities.

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  • Pamela Chapman

    I found your amazing piece on my Twitter page. Absolutely moving. You write with a passion that can only come from the divine, I believe. As a woman racially classified as Black in America, in which I love, something in me wanted to weep as I read your words. Dr. Brogan, so many women in my community (of all races) are beyond angry. Because, just as you have cited, the [false] illusion of feminine progress and, I’d like to add, the divide that has been manufactured. Main-stream media set these women up for a huge fall. I, like you, get my information from many sources coming to my own conclusions. Thereby, a win from Mr. Trump was no surprise. I wish, I could have you as a guest on my blogtalkshow. It is a time for healing. All I do is offer myself as a catalyst. Thank you for your passion and bravery! Pamela

  • Vanessa

    You, once again, nailed it. Thank you. This piece also led to further reading which helped me grapple with all of this.

  • LB

    Thank you. Sometimes I feel pretty alone in my perspective, isolated and longing for a sense of spiritual community, one in which truth is not the enemy. I was particularly disappointed when certain prominent left-leaning religious leaders (those concerned with social and environmental justice) made a point of highlighting Trump’s shortcomings (which are more obvious), yet ignored Clinton’s ~ as if to say, if one candidate’s positions are undesirable, then the other party’s candidate represents the more moral and humane choice.

    Even if this wasn’t their intention (and for some it was), I think many who read their pubic condemnation inferred as much. Your post was just what my thirsty soul needed to help balance out these and other pre and post-election narratives.

    Though I rely on alternative media sources for information (and even vet those), I still occasionally tune in to what’s going on in the MSM. It helps me to understand how our illusionary perspectives have come to be and why it’s frequently so difficult to budge from our more fixed and comfortable positions ~ even when we know.

    Thanks again.

    • LB

      In case my meaning wasn’t clear, I didn’t vote for Clinton or Trump. I can’t in good conscience support any candidate who’s a part of our system of endless war, oppression, exploitation and social, economic and environmental injustice.

      Having said that, I understand the fear and grief people are experiencing and feel it too. Though I’m glad Hillary didn’t win, I’m devastated Trump did. I’m trying to be especially mindful of people’s sensitivities right now without indulging in the scapegoating. Vulnerable ‘others’ make easy targets for collective rage.

      Adding how the typo in my previous comment is actually kind of funny, considering. I meant to type “public condemnation” not “pubic condemnation”!

  • Cassidhe Hart

    Your article gives me much to chew on, and I think your hopes for what we can accomplish by moving through pain, grief, and our own physical truths honestly are spot on.
    My one hesitation is that, as a white, straight, Christian woman, I have very little to fear from Trump’s agenda, or that of those he might gather around me. So I can afford to do the hard soul-body work of entering my pain and moving forward. Others, however, now find their bodies and their well being in danger. This presidency will not likely offer them the privilege of awakening to the hard, transformative work our society must engage in; survival may end up coming first. So how can someone like me learn to sit with the palpable, justified fears of those who have been “othered” and see their pain not only as a doorway but also as shrinking prison cell? How do I acknowledge that it is a privilege for me to be able to see this moment as an unveiling of transformative possibilities rather than the prospect of immediate harm? And then how do we work for this new way of being together?

    • Louise Kuo Habakus

      If you believe, as we do, that “other is us” then our “hard soul-body work” of entering, exploring, and transmuting our pain is not a selfish undertaking. When harm befalls any of us… including those in communities of the vulnerable, disadvantaged, ignored… the psychic wounds cut us all deeply (even when we don’t fully realize it). The activism that Kelly and I do on behalf of children, parents, and women requires us to “go there,” to stand toe to toe with shadow elements in ourselves, in people we love, in our world. There is a willful blindness about the pain and suffering that’s taking so many under. We cry more often than you might imagine — with an epic grief that can feel like a tsunami. And then we get back to work. You ask how do we work for this new way of being together? We start with a willingness to be vulnerable, to engage, to share, to disagree, to respect, to love, to try and keep trying to turn to the light, even (especially) when it hurts.

  • Ann

    I love Dr. Brogan’s work and agree with most of this article. I have been talking about the new feminism since the 1980s! But I have an issue with a few things. For starters the video is from RT news source – Russian Television. Is that the “independent news” source you rely on? The Russian ambassador has admitted to being in contact with Trump’s campaign. Also – what makes you think Trump isn’t part of the establishment – have you seen his cabinet selection and who’s on his transition team?? ” We can work with the wolf, particularly, if he is lone, without a pack of already deeply established industry and dynasty-level corporate and financial ties to Big Pharma, Big Chem, Big Ag, and Big Business.” His EPA choice is like handing over the EPA to the fossil fuel industry. Read Naomi Oreskes book Merchants of Doubt. I do agree a big shake up was meant to happen and ultimately this will mobilize America like nothing else could. But I think you are dreaming when you say this was a rejection of the elites, couldn’t be further from the truth. His path of destruction is going to be vast. That being said, I totally agree that if taken, this is an incredible opportunity for people all over the globe to awaken to their true potential.

    • Louise Kuo Habakus

      We rely on a diversity of sources. Assange’s video and the contents therein were not published by any US mainstream outlets.

      Trump’s candidacy was not desired, supported, or even tolerated by the establishment. Through a lens darkly… that’s how MSM viewed Trump.

      Don’t infer from our post that we view Trump as our savior. But yes to the “shake up” and the “incredible opportunity” you describe. It is a global awakening. People are already paying a lot more attention than they have in a long time and there is a great, messy outpouring of emotion. What we are seeing is part of a natural unfoldment.

  • Gracie Chase

    Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you! I have been teaching this for so long to my female college students. True feminism cherishes what makes us different from men, and as I tell them APING PATRIARCHY DOES NOT LIBERATE YOU! You have a new fan. XOXOXO

  • Dru West

    Great article. You put into eloquent words what I only sensed and could not articulate. Thank you!

  • Cindy Ma

    Yes, a MASTERPIECE! Thank you Kelly/Louise. Reposting like crazy!

  • Leah Harris

    YES! Pussy power.

  • calle

    I am so totally under-whelmed! I am only a second generation American on both sides of my family. And one side were indentured servants.
    I lived the beginning years when women burnt their bras, word no makeup, we’re dirty, wore no deodorant, swore like sailors, slept with every man they could bed, and reviled any woman who wore makeup, washed and styled their hair or wore attractive clothing. Using men was the rage, and putting down men for any kind of success was the norm.
    My extremely wise, uneducated but “Learned” father would attach attributes to a non race, non sexed person and then discuss those attributes.
    People look too hard at physical characteristics.
    Who wouldn’t want a successful business person to lead this country.
    And as far as “crass” I stopped taking my children to the YMCA as the girls/woman had such filthy mouths in 1997.
    I chose for my small children not to hear gutter talk.
    Woman who dress like women, but act like men, are not women. We have special talents, skills and creativity.
    Hillary according to sources swears like most men do not swear.
    And stealing $18million from Haiti is not a feminine attribute. And harassing women whom her marriage partner raped is not supportive of women.
    I know women who know women who were raped by Bill Clinton. And if you have never been raped, wonderful.
    I am a huge admirer of Ben Carson, and he got to know D. Trump and even though neither of us approve of degrading
    language, he trusts him.
    If you aren’t into Rap, then you have no idea of the words being forced into the minds of innocent toddlers.
    Guess I am too old to understand the rage, I started out working for $.69 an hour.
    I am the first and only high school graduate in my family, went to college, grad school, taught at two universities, went on to be in marketing at a Fortune 500 company and had my own company.
    I did it myself, no one helped me.
    Why don’t you go back to the time when you lost your ins if you got a divorce, or couldn’t continue your credit rating, man I get so sick today when I realize how hard I worked.
    Today we have more female lawyers, judges, doctors, truckers, plumbers, builders etc.
    And so many women revile white men.
    My grandmother never had running water in her house, nor a bathroom, nor central heat.
    How many truly feel blessed? How many know how lucky you are?
    We were all made fun of, discriminated against, were considered dumb or didn’t wear the correct clothing.
    Look at men and women who have overcome great odds to become successful. Look at Ben Carson, does anyone see him feeling sorry for himself.
    Off my rant, but my grandmother gave birth to 12 children many times all by herself.
    Ladies, do the best you can, and never but never compare yourselves to “anyone”.
    Each of us are born an “original” art work, so why would you want to be a “hamburger”?
    Read stories about great women who had nothing, and accomplished much.
    Be you, don’t be what the world or other women say you have to be.. and teach your children to me themselves. Too many get awards in sports for just showing up.
    And don’t live through you kids.

  • Dena Leigh

    Love love love this article! Thank you for your time, wisdom, heart and soul.

  • Cay Chandler

    Fabulous article, I know hope is alive and kicking and she is coming screaming up the ranks, a new firebrand type of empowered woman, this election has woken up so many out of complacency, got alot more of our youth engaged. There are a lot of interupters that are already levelling the playing field and it’s only self perception that is truly stopping women now, this I do believe is a tipping point.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for this very important article! However, don’t forget about all the men who also have been psychiatrically medicated and iatrogenically harmed. Or about the men who are realizing (and others who hopefully will) that they had their humanity whacked out of them at a young age and are struggling mightily to reawaken it.

  • Robin

    Thank you for this article. The archetypes presented in this election were pretty traumatising for me, and , I suspect for many. I was reminded all year of what it is like to have two abusive parents. No where to turn. They would lie to the doctors when I was beaten at home, they would cover for each other. I suspect child abuse is more common than anyone cares to know, and more intrinsic to a predatory capitalist system than many would like to know. Both of my parents had respectable jobs, nice wardrobes, and took us to church. They were focused more on money and what others thought than the wellbeing of their children. Dad eventually was found out, and had a few consequences. But Mom went to work for child protective services! A true professional! I view the recent election as the spiritual mirror of the USA. This is what our culture has become. Its time to re weave our communities, and raise up our inner animus and anima into the sacred marriage. In union, in community, we become whole and can heal. But first, the unveiling. Get used to a whole lotta ugly being revealed.

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